Several things nauseate me. One is when people describe their (or someone else's) sicknesses and surgeries while we’re eating. Another is when Christians get mad at God because they didn’t get their way about something.
I'm not speaking of young Christians – those who are just learning the ways of God. I see supposedly mature Christians doing this. Those who, between times when God ‘disappoints” them, act as though they have it all together and like to advise others on how to live.
Many Christians see God as their errand boy. He “owes” them. They want to define what is good for themselves and they expect Him to provide it. When He doesn't they get mad at Him. That is spiritual childishness. Amazingly similar to a spoiled brat throwing a fit. Or a "tizzy" as we might say.
So what is spiritual maturity? It is "to love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind," as Jesus says in Matthew 22:37. That means we are to love Him with all that is important to us; with our will and emotions; and with our thinking. Don’t try to convince me of your spirituality because of your “ministry,” your position in the church, your Bible knowledge or your spiritual gifts. If we don’t love God and declare Him good through the hard times, we're still childish.
I have a friend who, as a small boy, wanted to be a twin. When he realized that couldn't happen his dream became to have twin sons. Now, as an adult, his wife was pregnant with twins. Boys! It was the fulfillment of his lifelong dream. Then she went in for a routine checkup one Saturday at six-months and there was no heartbeat. Not even one! Now that is shattered dreams!
Plans were made to induce labor Sunday afternoon to deliver the twins. That morning I saw my friend lead worship in our church. He unashamedly acknowledged their grief but said that regardless of the situation, God was worthy to be worshiped and he chose to worship Him. He was not in denial – he just understands who he is and who God is! Now that is maturity!
God knows what is best for us. In every situation.
He loves us. Perfectly.
His supply is unlimited. Even overflowing.
He is committed to giving us what we need but He loves us enough to not always give us what we want. This applies to health, money, position, spiritual power and every aspect of life. It applies to individuals and institutions.
God is so right, and so full of kindness that we ought to be ashamed of ourselves for questioning Him. We ought to cringe at the thought of accusing Him of failing us or of not adequately responding to our need.
It can help us get back on track if we consider that, typically, it is the crud within us that obstructs the full flow of His presence, power and blessing! When things are not going as we want, it is generally because we have wrong desires or there is something within us that is blocking His blessing. It is time to humbly search our hearts in light of Psalm 139:23, 24.
God intends for our spiritual life to get better and better, but if that’s going to happen we need to deal with the dirt in our life – the stuff that clogs the flow. Difficulties create opportunities to do that. Instead, many people get mad at God, which is so contrary to Jeremiah 18:6, Romans 9:21 and similar scriptures.
If someone wants to humbly seek God's heart and work through their feelings in a difficult situation, I'll sit with them day or night. But when those who represent themselves to be mature, complain against God and accuse Him of letting them down, I'd like to say, "Quit whining. Go shut yourself in a room, fall on your face before God and don’t come out until you straighten up!"
It has been said "Never say never," but I think it's safe to say, "When there is a problem, God is never at fault."